#i'm only putting what i deem is the minimum in the fic

[fluffymary]

Why I don't think, at least for now, that I'll be making this blog MDNI.

This post is moreso a ramble on my part. My own philosophy behind my reasonings.

As of recent, I kept noticing a few blogs turning MDNI. Mostly of close friends, whom I've been following for a good while now. And while I agree I may've fallen under the pressure of "follow the masses' actions", it's true I stopped to ponder about it.

This community's really strict when it comes to SFW and NSFW. I'm a witness of that. Plenty of times.

But the real question of, should I put the mdni label on my blog? So far? Don't think so.

I started this blog on 2018. Almost seven years ago. And so far, this has been my only, and most used account excepting Deviantart (who was my root as an artist and to this community...yeah, i had unsupervised internet). But when I made this account, back then, tickling was nothing but a fixation.

A comfort thing. Something that was harmless, and it made me happy. Made me feel happy. And to this day, it still remains a comfort thing.

Of course, I'm not going to be hypocritical and say the nsfw aspect of it isn't present. It very much is, especially more since I turned 18. The thing is, I'm not vocal about it over here contrary to other social medias.

Then there's BlueSky. The other side of the coin. If you couldn't guess, yes, it is strictly NSFW. But it's also a personal space of mine.

A place to experiment with my interests, as I like to call it. You probably never even knew about the existence of my Bsky, despite me mentioning it briefly here. Bluesky is where I explore with my personal niches and kinks, and don't mention anything of it on any of my sfw accounts (tumblr and discord, server wise)

And that's the thing. I keep my accounts greatly managed.

And following that logic...if I already have my Bluesky account to post my more matured audience aimed drawings, why should i do the same here?

My tumblr account is strictly sfw. In here I post my regular drawings, my fics and whatnot; the statistics don't lie when I say that this blog's mostly followed by minors, and I've gotten plenty of anons tell me this is their comfort blog. Why should i take i away from them?

My Bluesky, on the other hand, is where I post the more spicy stuff. But I also post a few sfw drawings here and there that, while some aren't necessarily suggestive, I simply don't deem them "sfw enough" to be posted here. It's why it's going to be a huge whiplash to whoever goes and finds it, who's gotten used to the content I post on Tumblr.

(but if you're one of those reckless brats that'll try to dig around and find that blog and interact with any of my posts, just know that I block any and EVERY blog that's ageless, or has only been made "a few hours ago" (because yes, bsky lets you know when an account's fresh). So good luck with that)

And it stays like that for a while. You can say I'm a bit of a "lurker" here; I stay in my zone, my little space, I post my drawings, and I keep my interactions with my audience to the bare minimum. Heck, if there's a reason this blog is considered a "comfort" one is because it's also very drama-free (when I have a say on it, ahem), at least in my opinion.

I've already got two audiences to cater to, both the adults and minors, on each respective area. I like to think I've done a good job on that, so far.

So, in conclusion, again, for now, this blog stays open for everyone to interact to. Even if it's a little inactive given I've gotten more active on bsky, it doesn't mean it'll get abandoned or anything. I just vibe with my stuff, draw what I like - it's a win win for everyone, yknow?

[steviewashere]

Gotta thank the asktransgender subreddit for letting me read first hand stories from transpeople in the '90s.

Seriously grateful that I have access to resources like this. Especially considering I'm a trans person in—not only a whole new century—a whole new social climate. Where being open about my gender identity is more acceptable, less daunting, and more fluid.

Like, I'm learning about people who learned about their identity in both themselves and everyday life, but also through heinous things like pornography, stereotypes in cartoon shows (like South Park) and even more. The fact that when I had settled in myself, where the words were far away, but the feeling lingered (you know, something is off about my body. something is different in the way I wear my clothes compared to tomboys) —I at least had the words and I had positive influences online, there are a plethora of resources, and where I live, I have access to transgender healthcare.

Also found out about the fact that it wasn't until the late '00s that people could order hormonal treatment online (HRT injections, is what I read). It makes me wonder the kind of extents people went to try and express their gender, with some precautions of course. Like, knowing that the federal age minimum for smoking cigarettes was eighteen at the time (because this is America and that wasn't moved to twenty-one until some years back), there must have been some trans men who smoked like crazy, just to earn that raspy and deep quality to their voice, no? I've seen some people in this day and age who use cigarettes to gain that quality, so it doesn't sound far fetched, you feel me? (It's not my proudest admittance, but I've considered it because injections are expensive on federal healthcare.)

And, again, as silly as it is to do so much research for a fanfic, of all things...this is truly important for me to learn, to understand, to carry with me. Like it was when I read Lou Sullivan's diaries. It's important to me that I'm not ostracizing anybody, even—strangely—myself.

It's also just important to me knowing the restrictions that politicians are putting in place here in America. Knowing that, though I live in what is deemed as a "blue state", my gender healthcare is not guaranteed lifelong.

So, yeah, this is my research tonight. I encourage others to look into this, if even to just understand my silly little mtf Stephanie Harrington fic, of all things. Of all things.

I think I'm literally insane. Currently writing the third chapter of my trans mtf Stephanie Harrington fic. And I'm doing more stupid research. Not, like, dumb research—just, unnecessary research.

Like, Eddie's getting them (Stephanie and their daughter, Jazzy—which I've shortened from Jasmine) gifts that are (without tax included, because here in America, sales tax is not included on the shelf tags) a whopping $79.90 all together. But, it's 1999 in my fic, I don't know what the sales tax in Indiana was at that time—not only am I not from there, but I wasn't even fucking alive. Anyway.

The Indiana state sales tax rate was 5% at the time. And that would make the total cost around $83.90.

Also doing crazy research on the Millennium Princess Barbie from 1999, if that gives away what he's buying. But, did you know that one of the variations of this Barbie doll, her name is Teresa (Barbie's friend!) is an exclusive to Toys "R" Us, or was? She has a dark green velvet dress as opposed to stereotypical and African American Barbie's (that's what she's referred to, please don't kill me) dark blue velvet dress.

So, yeah, it's 3am. I'm writing this chapter. And I'm edging on the borderline of insane and completely normal, just maybe a bit overboard on wanting to write the times correctly. Lmao.

[babyboibucky]

So I have to catch up on your blog when I have down time in the afternoon, so I'm a little to the conversation. But going off the pregnant/kids fanfics topic.

I write occasionally, I love to do it, smut included, just don't have the time or motivation a lot of the time. I end up daydreaming about fics I want to write then they just live in my brain. So when I do write and post, I put like a bare minimum of warnings. I never really thought doing warnings for pregnancy and kids, only miscarriage. As a wife and mother, currently pregnant right now, and someone who has had miscarriages.

I don't mind doing warnings but I also feeling they spoil surprises and sometimes the plot. So my question for you or anyone with thoughts on warnings, you know to broaden my thoughts and mental insight. How do you determine what warnings to put? Like even just for smut, I usually only do smut or kinks, would it be better to put like oral and such as well?

Hi there, I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. You are very strong for overcoming such a heartbreaking experience and I’m glad you are pregnant!

This has been a dilemma for me too when I started posting fics again. Years ago when I was active in a different fandom, warnings weren’t paid that much attention to. I think it wasn’t such a big deal. But having been active in the present, I noticed how much everything’s changed with regards to posting content.

Initially, I was bummed out about having to put warnings because as you mentioned, it tends to spoil things. However, I personally think that putting others’ emotional well-being is much more important than preserving the surprises in our fics. I’d rather have someone opt out of reading my fic than to successfully surprise yet trigger them.

As for the warnings, I try to put in as much as I can, oral included. I also mention whether my fic covers toxic relationships, tension, hurtful words, age gap (reader is of age always) and other things that others may deem triggering, no matter how simple they appear to me. Pregnancy though, is something I thought didn’t need a warning to but thanks to all the anons who have shared their sentiments, I think those need to be included in the warnings as well.

Hope this helps!!!